Sex and Pregnancy – Not Tonight I have a………

There are so many men out there that have this strange fear that they will poke the baby in the head if they have sex with their significant other.  This is actually one of the funnier myths out there, and it is funny for a couple of reasons.

First of all, the baby is protected by the amniotic fluid, uterine tissue, and finally the cervix.  While the penis is hard it is hardly something sharp and destructive and the cervix is actually about as firm as the penis so if anything women might get vaginal bleeding from the cervix after intercourse.  I think the myths comes from the fact that men have this fascination with their penis’ and the fact that they think it is so long that they will actually be able to hit a baby that is 14 inches away in most cases.  It is also obvious that men have absolutely no conceptual understanding of the female anatomy or the potential anatomy of the pelvis.

TO ALL THE MEN, the female body is made so this type of trauma will not occur and so sex can be an enjoyable part of life even during pregnancy.  In 99.9% of cases the penis is directly pointing at the baby and in fact it is moving past the head of the baby because of the vector of the vagina and the way that we are all made.  Even if it is a straight shot I would say that we all need to be a bit more realistic about the size and length of the penis and the fact that it is not a vorpal weapon that will cut through anything it encounters.  The penis is a soft tissue organ and it is made that way for a reason, although Viagra commercials would have us believe that it needs to be erect 24/7.

Sex is good during pregnancy unless you are specifically told by your physician or caregiver that you need to refrain.  Occasionally, you might be placed on pelvic rest because of placenta previa or premature contractions.  The male semen has a chemical called a prostaglandin that can make the uterus contract.  So, unless you are specifically told not to have sex, go ahead and enjoy your body, either pregnant or not pregnant.  If he doesn’t want to have sex with you because he fears that he is going to poke the baby then give him an anatomy lesson and bring him back to reality.